Evaluating Your Life Plate

We live in a society where the most popular New Year’s Resolution is weight loss. Many people are so concerned with what they put on their plates, that other important things tend to fall by the wayside.

But speaking of keeping your plates healthy, I wanted to focus on a different kind of plate: your Life Plate.

I think of Life as a huge buffet busting at the seams with wonderful people, places, opportunities, and choices.

And like at you’re favorite Chinese lunch buffet, you have a choice as to what you put on your Life Plate.

You can choose to fill your plate with things that make you immediately happy, but end up leaving you feeling empty and tired.

You can lose all willpower and fill your plate with facades and lose sight of who you really are.

You can also choose to fill your plate with shoulds (things you think you should do, be, say, etc.) that ultimately end up making you feel anxious and overwhelmed.

Or, you could think of your Life Plate as a balancedhealthy plate filled with people and things that fuel you and make you feel your best. (Always remembering to save room for dessert 😉 )

As 2012 comes to a close, I encourage you to take a look at your Life Plate. Is it full of junk, or is it full of things you need?

Like a huge serving of faith (whatever that looks like to you), a heaping helping of family and meaningful relationships, all heavily seasoned with compassion (for yourself and others), genuine relaxation, and FUN.

Think about it.

Let’s chat – What’s currently filling up your Life Plate? What could be dumped into the garbage disposal, and what could be added? 

Mindful Meditation

Good morning!! I hope everyone’s day is starting off on the right foot! I got in 30 minutes of cardio this morning, and that’s helped me feel like I’m starting to get back on track! :)

Mindful Meditation

Through my volunteer experience, I have learned a great deal about controlling my emotions and not letting anxiety or anger get the best of me. I don’t have an angry temperament in the slightest, but let’s be honest – sometimes this homegirl gets pissed off at little things 😉

Last week, the class instructor talked at length about the concept of mindful meditation and it really struck a cord with me.


Did you know that most of our suffering comes from our mind either reliving the past or trying to envision (read: worry about) the future?

Think about it: Most of the time, our present situations are actually pleasant. Aside from sickness and losing someone we love, our lives are pretty good. We, as normal humans, have such a difficult time keeping our minds in the present, and that’s where we slip up and cause ourselves more anxiety (or anger, or suffering) than necessary.


As a self-professed neurotic individual, I’ve been interested in meditation for a while; I even took a meditation class at the community rec center last summer in search of peace of mind. I sat in the dark with two other women while the instructor spoke with the inflection of that of a person who just received a horse tranquilizer.

She led us through a process of cleansing our organs with our mind’s eye. Give me a break, tranquilizer lady.

Needless to say – I started drooling at one point. And if I wasn’t slipping into a nap (that I paid for) my mind was racing.


It felt forced and unnatural. Why was finding an inner peace so difficult and frustrating?!

Well, I’ve come to learn that sitting in the dark and “Om, Om, Oming” the day away isn’t the only way to meditate and find some piece of mind.

Mindful mediation is partaking in any activity that requires us to be fully present in the current moment.

  • Working out
  • Writing
  • Baking

All these things calm me and inhibit my mind from worrying. How many times have you been on a run or truckin’ away on the elliptical (or doing something you truly enjoy) and found yourself worrying?

My guess is probably zero.

I’ve been thinking about this all week. Every time I find myself getting anxious or upset, I ask myself “Is what I’m worried/angry about actually happening right now?”

It’s so surprising that it’s usually the case that I’m worrying about what might happen or what did happen in the past. If I bring myself to my present situation, I find that I realize something like – Hey, it’s a warm, sunny day and I’m driving to see Cory. All is good right now. And any tension or worry slips away.

It’s such a simple, yet life changing concept and I’m begging that you give it a try!

Next time you get in a tizzy just slow down and attempt to consider only the present situation that you’re in. You can be a fast-paced city girl like me and still have the ability to find yourself a sense of peace and calm without sitting cross-legged on beach listening to the sound of your breath 😉

Let’s chat – What’s an activity that you do that totally calms you down?