I was one of those kids who had the tendency to want to quit everything I ever started at the first sign of discomfort, struggle, or the requirement to exert genuine effort.
I can recall the first swim team practice I ever attended. I was in fourth grade, shy as hell, painfully self-conscious, and extremely unathletic. After the first lap of the warm up, I got out of the pool on the verge of tears and told my mom I wanted to go home.
It wasn’t easy, I felt embarrassed, and I wasn’t perfect.
My mom is amazing, and she’s tough. It would have been easy for her to say “Okay, honey, we’ll go home. Good try.” But whenever I wanted to quit, she simply said, “quitters never prosper” and then left it up to me. It wasn’t mean, nor was it wasn’t condescending; she never made me do anything I didn’t want to do, but she sure as hell wasn’t going to sugar coat my quitting attitude.
That day at swim practice was no different, and she handed me my bag and towel as she said it. Did I know what prosper even meant? Not really, but I knew that the word quitter felt heavy and ugly.
So I got back in the pool.
I ended up being the captain of my high school swim team. I wasn’t an exceptional swimmer, but I enjoyed it. Had my mom let me quit that day in grade school, I would have missed out on so many fantastic experiences in the future.
So what does this have to do with Taboo Mom Talk?
The weekly technical difficulties haven’t been easy, I’ve felt embarrassed that it hasn’t gone smoothly, and I wanted to quit. I told myself it wasn’t worth it, and it’s no use trying if it’s not going to be perfect (as you tell, my negative self-talk game is STRONG.)
But because quitters never prosper (and because I have a really fun and encouraging co-host friend) we’re going to give it another go, because that’s what I said I would do. I’ve been talking directly with Blab, and they’ve been super responsive and helpful, so I’m hopeful that tonight will go smoothly. And if it doesn’t? So be it! I enjoy it and I get to drink wine and talk to my friend(s), so that’s a win a my book.
I hope you’ll join us tonight at 8pm EST – it’s gonna be a good one!