Getting married to Cory is the best decision I’ve ever made in my entire life. No one has ever made me happier, and the bond as husband and wife is something I find difficult to describe.
I knew I wanted to marry Cory not long after we started dating. It was a certainty like the rising and setting of the sun. I just knew it was going it happen.
When we got engaged, all anyone would talk to me about was the wedding. The colors, the dress, the location, the guest list, the music. While I was certainly giddy about these things, I don’t consider myself to have been an average bride-to-be.
I was always struck by the fact that no one ever mentioned the days that follow the wedding. You know, the whole marriage part.
For me, the whole marriage part what I was most excited about. Sure, the wedding was something to look forward to, but for me, the focus was always on the days, months and years after the wedding.
My sights were set on being husband and wife – not about throwing the best wedding ever (which, IMO, it was 😉 )
After the party ended, the sparklers fizzed out, and the guests went home, it was just us. It was the beginning that I had been longing for.
What I’m getting at, is that from my experience, it seems that many couples don’t focus on the amount of work, dedication, compromise, and communication that are critical aspects of a strong marriage.
Yes, work. It doesn’t feel like work every day (at least I hope not!) but working on your marriage should become the main priority in your life. Not you. Not your friends. Not your job. Not your parents. Your marriage is something you have to work at, fight for, and protect at all times.
It’s beautiful work, really. It’s fulfilling and happy and gracious and kind – which is why it doesn’t feel like work all the time.
My hope is that brides and grooms-to-be don’t spend their entire engagement stressing and arguing over the details of an 8 hour party. If you do that, you’re going to struggle to land gracefully after the wedding.
You know, when that whole marriage thing kicks in.