Maybe it’s the 20-something in me, but does anyone else feel like they’re behind the eight ball of Life sometimes?

Christ, every time I get on Facebook or Instagram or read a blog it’s as if everyone is writing a book, becoming famous, starting their own business or having their third child while simultaneously wearing size 4 jeans and holding a VP title at a Fortune 500 company.

And I’m like, I…have a job? And my hobbies include drinking, Netflixing and taking pictures of my dog. Sometimes I workout in between eating subs and taking naps, and my most recent fitness success is not once farting during a yoga class.


I have dirty dishes in my sink, and sometimes I don’t completely close my underwear drawer. My toothpaste top is crusty and I still don’t know if there’s a way to wash my face without ending up with a sopping wet countertop as a result.

I have the best of intentions, but I’m forgetful as hell. My car is a mess and sometimes my socks don’t match. I’m weird and foul-mouthed and a recovering stressaholic.

I’m not a business owner. Or a famous writer. Or a muscle woman. Or super talented fill-in-the-blank-here. (And maybe you’re not either.)

But I love and trust first, and ask questions second. I have the fortunate problem of often laughing so hard that I pee a little. My heart is beyond full and I literally have everything I have ever wanted.  (And maybe you do, too.)

Perspective. It’s a wonderful and terrible thing, friends. But you get to choose it.



  1. says

    Ooooh perspective…. This is a great post and I oftentimes remind myself that our fellow Facebook-ers and bloggers tend to only show the positive aspects of their life on social media. I’m not saying they shouldn’t do this but it just needs to serve as a reminder that no one’s life is perfect, we all feel like we aren’t “keeping up” with the Jones’ and that we should just live our lives as we please and be happy with who we are!

    • Colleen says

      AMEN!! Of course we all naturally want to put our best foot forward (I know I want to!) but just because we see “perfection” on the internet, doesn’t mean it’s true 😉

  2. says

    Nope. I should’ve been graduating from college this year, but I switched majors 910438192 times and still don’t know what to do with my life. And I feel like everyone my age is graduating, getting jobs, etc. Darn it. Hahaha but I love this post. Perspective is so powerful!

    • Colleen says

      It’s better to switch your major NOW than sticking with one you didn’t like and ending up with a mind numbing job and THEN deciding to go back to school #amiright

  3. says

    I feel the same way too! I’m just starting out my career, I’m in a 5 year relationship and not yet married, plus your regular old “I’m a 20-something female mess.” But I am so so happy with where my life is right now. It’s not what everyone is doing, but I like that.

    • Colleen says

      That’s what I like to hear! Happiness is really all that matters. And PS: I was in a relationship for 5 years before I got married. ::cough::come on, kaylee::cough:: 😉

    • Kala says

      I just started graduate school and I am in an Executive MBA Program where all of my fellow students are directors and supervisors and basically awesome. I am a mid-twenties mess with a six-year live in boyfriend and 2 massive German Shepherds. And I’m fine with that. Love this post.

  4. says

    This post made me realize how similar we are…kind of weird how you read my mind with everything you said!

    We seriously need to meet one day!

  5. says

    every single thing you listed is exactly why you’re so loveable. especially the crusty toothpaste – i couldn’t even unscrew mine yesterday it was so dang crustified. tossed it (which bothers me because I hadn’t squeezed out every last molecule).

    • Colleen says

      You are so awesome and when I get a compliment from LINDSAY I’m like, !!!!!!!!! :)
      And I hear ya on the toothpaste – I need every.last.bit.

  6. says

    I can so relate. I look at you and think you have a great job — I graduated college and I wash other people’s dishes and pick up toys (I’m a nanny) for a living. Some days are hard, because I’d love to be using my degree…and hopefully I will be again soon. I just try to remember that this is just a season in life, and I can’t compare it to someone else’s!

    • Colleen says

      I just had a really great conversation with a friend last night, and we were talking about how some people find their identity in their jobs…and we don’t. I love my job, but my job is so NOT me…just like being a nanny isn’t the definition of you. It’s a paycheck! Sure, being able to use your degree is nice, but you’re doing what you have to do, and that’s the most admirable someone can do! :)

  7. says

    Sounds like I could have written this. The toothpaste, for sure, and it bugs the husband more than he lets on. I don’t have any huge successes, but I live my life and am having a blast with it. I find new things I love doing all the time and adds to my happiness. Definitely about perspective, especially when hopping on Facebook and seeing only the good from people.

  8. says

    Oh girl, you are one of my favorites – THAT is something to be proud of. Kidding. Kind of. 😉 But yes, perspective is SO important in this journey we call life. We all have these messes that we don’t share on a regular basis…and that’s the danger of social media. Who wants to show everyone their messes?? Our society wants us to look skinny, fit, beautiful, wealthy, put together, fashionable, and basically perfect. But obviously that’s NOT reality. Thanks for always putting a smile on my face!

  9. says

    Love, love, LOVE this post! After struggling with perspective (& confidence) during my last year of my 20s and finally embracing 30 (& all the beautiful, if not perfect, things I’m blessed to have in my life), I’ve learned soooo much about perspective. I love my life and, while I don’t have the career or life I always imagined I would (who does?), I wouldn’t want it ANY other way. Thanks for the (hilarious but truthful) reminder to be content with life. :-)

  10. says

    Amen, sista! But seriously, I swear every time I log onto Facebook someone is engaged, married, pregnant, had a baby, buying a house…something. I’m 26, single, getting back into my career (after stepping away to question if it was right), renting in the suburbs, and thinking about making another big move. I’m in no way “settled” or participating in what feels like “things adults do” BUT I also know I’m EXACTLY where I’m supposed to be right now and when the time is right for things to change, I know they will.

  11. Tiffany says

    Literally the most relatable thing I’ve read in a while! I always feel like the person who allllllmost has her stuff together. One day…one day! For now, I’m pretty good with where I’m at :)

  12. Lisa says

    And this is why I consistently come back to your blog! I read a lot of them but you might be the one I relate to most! You rock and I love the foul mouthed version!

  13. says

    I LOVE this post!!

    “I still don’t know if there’s a way to wash my face without ending up with a sopping wet countertop.” —-> me too!!! haha My husband thinks I really take a bath in the sink every time I wash my face. I tell him we just must have a super small sink. I am glad to see I am not the only one. :-)

    • Colleen says

      Hahha! I’ve had to start keeping a designated hand towel under my sink to dry the countertop after each face wash. It’s impossible to do it without making such a mess!

  14. Rachel says

    Perfect post. I constantly find myself falling into the comparison trap, and I’ve even had to stop following certain bloggers for this reason. Thanks for making me feel less like a freak. :)

  15. says

    haha I love this :) Social media has a funny way of making us feel like we’re behind. Or not doing enough. And everyone else is living perfect lives on the road to success. But I love posts like this because they’re real. I can relate to pretty much every single thing you mentioned :)

  16. says

    I’ve been a lurker on your blog for quite a while but have never commented….but I just wanted to say that I absolutely love this post :)

  17. Julie says

    seriously love this. was shaking my head in agreement for each point (especially the sopping wet sink when i wash my face….i thought i was the only one who did that!). your blog always makes me happy :)

  18. says

    I feel this which is one of the reasons I got off of Facebook. I don’t feel like it’s significantly increased my happiness but it has made me feel less like I’m missing out.

    I think we all fall victim to this, especially in the age of social media. A lot of people probably are envious of YOU because you’re married, a homeowner and have an adorable dog! No one has a perfect life and it’s refreshing to hear someone who admits her life isn’t perfect on social media 😉

    Personally, I spent way too much time watching HGTV, leave dishes in the sink (luckily I live alone), and rarely wear “real clothes.” (luckily I am a nurse so I am at least justified in wearing scrubs to work).

    • Colleen says

      Thanks for this comment, Alison! Yes, I’m sure people DO look at my life and think “Oh man, that’s a perfect life.” Just thinking that makes me laugh, because while I LOVE my life, it’s not perfect. I try my hardest to push that message without totally airing ALL my personal dirty laundry :)

    • courtney says

      i quit facebook, too, and have been sooooo glad to have done it. i recently reactivated for about five minutes and started gagging with everyone’s humblebrags and partial references to things they are just begging to have people question them about (oh, please, tell me what IS that drama you’re not-so-secretly referencing?!). swift re-deactivation :]

  19. says

    AMEN xINFINITY. The internet seems to urge people to only point out the so called perfect stuff- healthy eating, exercise, yadda yadda. My perspective: sure, I get annoyed that we sometimes leave buts of ground beef to dry on the stovetop. But you know what? I love those extra five minutes we’re on the couch together. Drinking beer. I’ll clean it later.

  20. says

    I always joke I should take some photos of our upstairs rooms and people would go running away in horror. We are all human there are things we make a mess of. I agree that while on social media everyone is running the world, usually there is more going on behind the scenes. No one is perfect and those who pretend to be need to let it go. Life is Messy.

  21. Jen@HealthyFoodandFamily says

    Love it. All of it. I’m about to have my 4th child and I still have no fucking idea what I’m doing most of the time!

  22. courtney says

    wahoo! so right. the more of my girlfriends i talk to who let their guard down, the more i realize how we all think we’re fucked and we all think we can’t get our shit together. i’m glad that if we’re all sinking, we’re going down together. but really, i think we’re just putting the pieces together. and we’re happy day to day, so screw the expectations.

    i really appreciate the honesty and may or may not wish you were a best friend that lived right down the road :]

    ps– it really IS lucky to often have the opportunity to pee your pants from laughing hard. preach! xx

  23. Nicole says

    I love love LOVE this post! I am 33 and haven’t put my laundry away in a week, my car is a disaster, and I have a job I desperately want to leave. Thank you for making me think about who I AM and what’s beautiful, not about the clutter of life!

  24. says

    Lawd I relate to this post so so much. This is why I love your blog….can we be best friends!?!? I seriously wish we lived in the same state. I sound creepy but seriously…..I dont even have an underwear drawer…it all goes in a laundry basket…bras, sports bras, socks…all the things! haha

  25. says

    I’ve often wondered if I’m living a worthwhile life. I don’t have a job that will change the world and I’ll never cure cancer but I have a happy life so is that enough? I believe it is! Sure the house is a mess and there’s dog hair everywhere but we’re happy and surely that’s all that matters?

  26. says

    Perspective!!! My goodness!! I feel identified, for so many reasons, first and foremost I’m thankful for everything I got, but sometimes I can’t help but feel waaaaay behind everyone. They have a great job, they are entrepreneurs, blah blah blah! Sometime I’d rather avoid some friends because I don’t want to answer their long list of questions… boringggg! I’m happy with the things I’ve got so far. I’m not exactly where I want to be, but I’m working on it. This is a self discovery path, and I don’t want to rush things! People more often than not live life in the rush of work, traffic and family that they forgot to enjoy the ride! Ok am I crazy? Don’t know, maybe is just about perpective ;)! Love this post!

  27. says

    My perspective is a little more on the negative side these days, so thank you for this. And as always, thank you for making me laugh. My life is so far from together it’s a little (read: a lot) embarrassing. I’m embarrassed. There, I said it. But, putting on my positive perspective hat, there is a lot of good that comes from it :).

  28. says

    I absolutely love this post! Social media has screwed a lot of our perspectives on other people’s lives. Staying down to earth should be valued today!

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