One Month Facebook Sober


It’s been over a month since I made the life changing decision to deactivate my Facebook. Okay, so maybe life changing is a bit of a stretch, but still.

I thought that after a Facebookless month, I’d have a really dramatic post to write, but I fear that’s not the case. That said, I felt like some things could be addressed:

  1. Leaving Facebook is a humbling experience. I’ve learned that I do not have 1,015 friends in real life. In fact, it’s more like, 15 [on a good day.]
  2. When I do get back on Facebook, I will be going through a severe friend purge.
  3. Being off Facebook has made me even more aware of the Facebook culture. At least once a day someone says to me: Did you see what so-and-so posted on Facebook?!?!?!? 
  4. When you remind said person that you aren’t on Facebook, you will [without a doubt] receive an eye-roll.
  5. 3 divorces, 12 pregnancies, and 8 million blog posts have been posted about this past month, and I missed all of them. 
  6. Buzzfeed is so much more entertaining than Facebook.
  7. I have genuinely stopped caring about pointless shit happening in other people’s lives.
  8. Instagram is the perfect fix for me. I get to share little things, and I love seeing other people’s pictures.
  9. I love getting to hear stories first hand, rather than seeing them on Facebook and then half dozing when I hear about them in real life.
  10. Everyone’s main concern was where they’d be able to see Penny pics. No, nothing about me – just my big dog. So I post about her here and here.
  11. On our anniversary, we got so many texts! That is way, way better than someone writing on my Facebook wall.
  12. My mission of talking and connecting with the important people in my life has been accomplished. I despise talking on the phone, but I’ve gotten better at it! I even sent a few handwritten letters this month.
  13. It’s even been an exercise in scaling back what I share on the blog and on other social media avenues. We’ve had exciting things come and go in the past month, and it’s been nice just sharing them with the people involved. Does that make sense?

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  1. says

    It would definitely be an interesting experiment for me….except that my job basically requires me to be on Facebook so I can check up on the stupid artists and bands and yell at them when they don’t listen to my advice. 😉

    With that said, I am one to de-friend people when I get sick of seeing their negative posts and stuff.

  2. says

    Interesting experiment! Y husband and I were just talking about this the other day. I hate how connected we are – not to people, but to the act of logging on and scrolling through people’s lives… This would be tougher than I’d like to admit! Got me thinking… Love the things you’ve learned and thanks for sharing!

  3. Elizabeth says

    I completely agree!! I deactivated my account for about 3 months while I was studying for the bar exam, and after reactivating it, I have to say I really have no desire to look at it. The main factor in my decision to get back on it was not missing out on event invites haha. But I feel so much freer and calmer not constantly scrollin through the dang newsfeed!!

  4. says

    I don’t know if I could give up Facebook. My hubby did about two years ago and he doesn’t miss it at all. He could care less when someone ask him if he saw something on Facebook. He says he will probably never get back on it either.

  5. says

    I’ve tried so many times to go completely Facebook-less. As we’re about to have a baby, I find it useful for asking questions of other moms in this one group I’m in. But yet, I still hate my attachment to it. Maybe a post on tips for cutting ties with it (unless you already wrote about that and I missed it), because what you shared about your experience sounds so great!

  6. says

    I saw that on Instagram and thought it was so meaningful and powerful. I cannot imagine giving up Facebook for a month or even more…more power to you! I’ve found that I honestly don’t care a lot about many of my Facebook friends trivial life events. I obviously care and hope they are doing well…but I don’t care about their over shares…no not really.

  7. melissa says

    after reading this and dealing with a lame facebook “situation” of someone (a real friend i guess you could say) posting something not-so-nice on my wall last night , i can happily say i deleted my app. (my awesome/supportive future husband did too)
    honestly it hasn’t even been a full day and i can already feel my self going through a cleanse. ha!
    but seriously, i think after reading this and dealing with that bs, it was a sign for me to step away for a little. besides, i get more annoyed being on it and seeing 27 advertisements and “people i might know” that i totally don’t.
    thanks lady!

  8. says

    This may be a dumb question but… when you deactivated your personal Facebook account, did anything happen to your blog’s Facebook page? I see you still have it, but I guess I am wondering how you log into it and access it now that you do not have a personal account. Can you help?? 😉

    • Colleen says

      Not a dumb question – it took me a long time to figure it out! Yes, if you delete your personal account, it affects your blog. SO I created a new, fake account and made that account the admin for my blog page. That way, I was able to keep it up, while getting rid of my personal one!

  9. says

    Interesting! My husband gave up all social media for lent. When I asked him to reflect and tell me how much he has grown, he told me that he didn’t feel any different. He said he simply realized how little social media means! The biggest thing he got from it was seeing how he could be spending his time more wisely.

  10. Lauren says

    So, I gave up FB about 3 years ago and people STILL ask me if I saw something on FB and then GASP/Act shocked when I tell them I’m not on it. The first month or so was the worst, but honestly I don’t even miss it now. Yes there are pictures and stuff that I haven’t seen but I have found that I live more in my life versus worrying about what everyone else is doing or comparing myself.

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