If you’ve been reading this blog for more than a week, you know that I have struggled with body image issues. Like so many young females, today’s society made me believe I was supposed to look a certain way to be beautiful, and that I certainly wasn’t supposed to love myself if I didn’t meet those standards.
Standards, like, not being a weirdo. Definitely don’t meet that qualification.
I got some flack for the post I wrote about gaining weight. People wrote emails and posted negative comments on the internet about how I am “too thin to complain about gaining weight and struggling with body image issues.”
Speaking in societal terms, I’m average; even leaning towards the thin end of the spectrum. As a recovering body-hater, it’s taken me years to realize this.
The point of me, a normal-border-line-thin girl, writing about body image issues is to prove that this type of struggle doesn’t belong to one body type.
my thick eyebrows used to make me SO self-conscious!
That’s right! Negative body image knows no body type. The only requirement for having body image issues is having a body.
Secondly, if someone thinner than you opens up to you about her struggles with her own body image you might roll your eyes and say to yourself, “God, if she thinks SHE’S fat, what does she think about ME?”
I can assure you, friend, that she doesn’t think anything about you.
Did you get that? It’s not about you.
Negative body image doesn’t care if a girl is thin, fat, round, stocky, lanky, black, white, or purple. It doesn’t matter how you a see a girl, it matters how she sees herself. Let her own her struggles. It’s impossible (not to mention, RUDE) if you tell someone how she is supposed to feel.
If she opens up to you about her struggle, just listen.
Lastly, remember, if (if! if! if!) she’s comparing herself to you, I can guarantee that in her mind, she’s not measuring up to the beautiful person she thinks you are.