Love Yo’self

Brace yourself for a sweeping generalization:

We ladies are all kinds of crazy.

I know I sure am.

I know I’m not the only one who brushes off compliments like they’re unwanted charity work, yet holds on to negative comments [and thoughts] like they’re the golden gospel written and hand delivered by Jesus Christ Himself.

Am I right? [I know I’m right.]

Why do we think it serves us to dwell on the negative? Surely, we can’t think it will help with self-improvement. Can we? That sounds like a sick, sadistic form of motivation if you ask me.

[I’ve been guilty of it, for sure.]


The good thing, I’ve learned, is that we’re all in total control of how we feel. Sure, it might not always feel like it, but I assure you – we’re the sole Conductors of our own crazy trains. We’re the only person responsible for driving ourselves straight towards Negative Nancyville.

But what if we switched gears and did something even crazier than holding onto negative thoughts and energy that don’t serve us?

How about we love ourselves?

Dare I suggest: embrace ourselves?

I’m not talking about just the pretty parts of ourselves. The parts that we Instgram or blog about. All parts. The parts that make us feel “less than” or “weird” or “self-conscious.” Normally those aspects are the ones that other people admire about us; we’re just too weird to see it.

So, I’m challenging you.

Yes, you, to turn that crazy train around and do something positive for yourself. Not to sound all zen and tree-huggy, but if we only harbor the negative, that’s only what we’ll receive.

And you know what? I think you deserve all the love and happiness and positivity the world has to offer.

Really, I do.


  1. says

    I agree with your generalization! For some reason, it’s so much easier (for women) to zero in on the negative traits that we possess. Not to say that guys don’t do this also, but I’ve just noticed that women, myself included, are a lot harder on themselves. But nothing good comes from that kind of thinking, and it not only affects you but the people that love you. I try to remember that whenever I feel the negativity coming on!

  2. Sarah L says

    Love this post Colleen, I’ve been working around the notion “You bring about what you think about” and it has helped me immensely. Thanks for standing up for women on your blog, its great to see another woman empowering other women to be the best versions of themselves!

  3. Jamie says

    I agree… ALL women are crazy…some are just crazier! :) I agree with you and try to focus on the positive and happy all the time. Sometimes it’s harder than others but generally speaking, life is too short to live in Negative Nancyville! xoxoxo

  4. says

    It’s definitely interesting how the more I started to embrace myself – or at least STOP APOLOGIZING for myself/my body/my batshit crazy brain – the more I started to receive affirmation and encouragement about those very areas of life that I’d been so insecure about.

  5. says

    Hello! Nice to meet you, just found your blog, and I definitely like it so far. This is a great first post for me to read. I can definitely relate to this, especially within my own running; I am a high level athlete, yet still doubt myself in races all the time, even if I am “guaranteed” a win. it is funny how our mind plays tricks on us, but you are right, at least we are in control!

    • Colleen says

      Hi, Tina! I’m so glad you stopped by! That’s so cool how you compared this to competitive running – I’m not an athlete so I would have never thought about it that way! Thanks!

  6. says

    Awesome post, Colleen. You are 110% correct, we’re in control of how others make us feel. Chances are pretty good that IF anyone speaks negatively to us, they’re not someone we value and are close to, so why should we even care?!

  7. Susan says

    I just LOVE Yo’self! Your blogs are so relevant and spot on – not just to the 18-34 year old demo, but to the expanded 35+. You are an incredibly insightful writer in which you continually make me laugh, reflect on life and simply inspire. In the time of everyone “trying” to blog, The Lunchbox Diaries stands head and shoulders above the rest. Really! Keep them coming!

    • Colleen says

      I LOVE YOU, SUSAN!! You are such a great cheerleader :) Would you puh-lease come hang out with me?!?!

  8. says

    I am so glad that I’m not only one that finds it hard to take a compliment, but let’s myself be completely obsessed with anything negative anyone says to me. I definitely needed this post today! Also, posts like this are why I wish we were friends IRL. That is all! <3

  9. says

    Rockstar advice. I know I try to only show the ‘good’ when it comes to my Instagram posts, but really I should just take the picture, and not worry about how ‘perfect’ it looks. So what if my apartment is a mess? We are in the middle of moving. And this definitely resonates with me when it comes to my self as well.


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