Sometimes I feel a little different from most of the healthy living bloggers that I associated with, because I am earning a degree (and experience) that has nothing to do with physical fitness.
No nutritional plans and no new and exciting workouts will come from me. I’m in the counseling field, and what I bring to the blogging table is my belief that mental wellness is a huge factor in living a health lifestyle.
Maybe it’s because I’m a newlywed, or maybe it’s because I have a deep interest in intimate human interaction, but I adore The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book is an interesting read for people currently in a relationship and for single people who want their next relationship to more successful, more fulfilling.
The whole idea is that “Couples who understand each other’s love language hold a priceless advantage in the quest for love that lasts a lifetime – they know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel truly and deeply loved. That gift never fades away.” (Chapman, 2010)
I could go on and on about this book, but let’s just get to the interesting part that every reader wants to know: What are the 5 Love Languages?
Words of Affirmation – You feel most loved when your partner pays you sincere compliments like, “You look amazing today.” or “I appreciate you taking the time to cook dinner tonight.” Like Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
Quality Time – You feel most loved when your partner spends quality time with you, such as going on a walk or having an extra long (meaningful) conversation over dinner.
Receiving Gifts – You feel most loved when your partner surprises you with a gift.
Acts of Service – Your feel most loved when your partner is thoughtful and insists on doing the dishes, catching up on laundry, running errands for you, etc.
Physical Touch – You feel most loved when your partner engages in physical touch, such as a back rub, sitting closely to one another while you watch TV at night, or holding hands on walk.
People can have a combination of two, but there’s usually one primary love language. After reading this book, I think people fall into relationship woes for two reasons. First, they think everyone gives and receives love in the same way. Second, they think love is always easy and if you have to work at it, it must be doomed. Both are completely false.
Everyone loves a little differently, and at times, love takes work. But anything worth having isn’t always easy, right?
What’s your love language? I’m primarily Quality Time with a combination of Acts of Service.
Your partner’s? (But don’t assume – go find out!)