The more I talk and connect with other moms, the more I realize that one thing we all experience is Mom Guilt. Rather just Plain Old Guilt, Mom Guilt is a special kind of irrational, all-consuming crazy. It’s like, as soon as you become a mom, guilt becomes your automatic response to every situation in life. What’s even crazier, is that to the majority of us are experiencing some level of mom guilt at all times.
If you work outside the home? Mom Guilt.
If you work inside the home and happen to have two second to sit down? Mom Guilt.
If you’re out having fun without your kids and/or husband? Mom Guilt.
If you’re sad because you’re not out without your kids and/husband? Mom Guilt.
Whatever and however you choose to feed your kid? Mom Guilt.
If you do something for yourself? Mom Guilt.
If you experience Mom Guilt? Mom Guilt.
The examples endless, and I’m certain that every single mom reading this has her own Guilt List (I know I do!) I’m new to the mom game, but I’m a quick study, and I’m learning that this kind of guilt is dangerous. This Mom Guilt has the ability to rob us of happy moments, relaxation, and the ability to enjoy life to the fullest potential.
It also has the ability to disguise itself as anxiety, anger, resentment, and sadness; and in my opinion, no one deserves that (self-imposed) shit in her life. It’s toxic and it serves no one.
I wish I could say I have a solution, but I don’t. What I can tell you is that I’m working on it myself. What’s helping me is having the insight to address it, accept it, and to let.it.go. Do I think I’ll ever shake all the Mom Guilt? Not even close. But do I think I’m going to avoid making it my default setting? Absolutely.
Who’s with me?