Yesterday I had more than one conversation about how dating is hard work. It was funny because now that I’m an old married hag, people rarely ask me about dating since I’ve been “off the market” for quite some time.
Oh, but like an elephant, I never forget – and here’s what I remember working quite well.
When you meet a guy you’re interested in, go for it! Ladies, we can vote and wear pants – stop acting like you need to wait around in your petticoat for your suitor to come to your front door.
I asked Cory for his number, and I asked him to hang out for the first time (as seen here.)
What a tangled web we weave, when we first deceive is a saying I never fully appreciated until I tried to impress Cory when I told him, Oh yeah – I love watching football! That was a bold-faced lie I told to a guy I wanted to date, and it put me in a really awkward position the following Sunday when he invited me to watch the game.
I had no idea what was going on – when to cheer or when to “COMEON, REF!” I actually had to hide in the bathroom and call the biggest football fan I know for some guidance: my mother.
Over 5 years later, Cory still jokes about being terribly disappointed with the real Colleen 😉
Giants/Skins game September 11, 2011 (aka forever making up for my white lie)
Letting go of the cool factor also helps a great deal. Personally, I don’t like to learn new things in front of people – it’s my neurotic side that prefers to appear in the know at all times. But it’s different with Cory; I’ve learned to take my guard down and allow him to teach me things – even if I look like an idiot in the process.
Don’t ditch your friends. It’s so easy to create your own little world with your main squeeze. Been there, done that – and it’s difficult to remedy. It’s important to keep friends in your lives because it helps keep your relationship healthy and balanced.
Clearly there are more serious factors that help make dating less stressful, but I think these are easy things to keep in mind
Love each other, my friends!
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