Oh my goodness, thank you so much for the warm welcome back! I had a few important friends plant the seed about coming back, but it was a conversation with my coach that finally sealed the deal. Although, I lost the bet because I told her it would probably be a dusty space on the internet met with crickets and tomatoes (my self-esteem game came be so strong sometimes.)
So, before we jump back into regularly scheduled programming, let me try to bring you up to speed on a few things!
Why I Stopped Blogging
I’ll be perfectly honest. At the time, I genuinely felt that my reasoning was that I was just over blogging, but after actually having conversations about it months later, I realized that I had fallen into the comparison trap…hard. I was constantly comparing myself to others and felt like I was totally lagging behind because I haven’t landed a book deal or ever been on sponsored travel or found a way to completely supplement my income with this blog. So, with those parameters set, I felt like a failure.
Surface level, it sounds lame, but whether or not you’re a blogger, I think everyone can relate to that feeling to some extent.
Tons of my coaching clients feel that way about Facebook because every time they log on, someone else is engaged or pregnant and they’re nowhere near that stage of life (some by choice, some not so much.) So they feel like they’re failing because they’re not on the same exact path as “everyone else.”
I was no different, comparing myself to a small handful of people on the internet and their “success.” I’ll probably never land a book deal or be invited to go on sponsored travel, but that’s not a big deal.
I recently heard someone define success as “doing what I want, when I want, with who I want.” With those parameters set, I’m totally succeeding. What a helpful perspective shift!
What I’ve Been Doing While I’ve Been Gone
- Working on my business (and doing really well?!) My available 1:1 client slots have been full for a few months, and I’ve been contracted by a Virginia university’s accredited MBA program to coach their graduating students, as well as create and facilitate an online program for their current students.
- I’ve also had several speaking engagements in and around Richmond, which has been super fun.
- Writing the bi-weekly newsletter for this venture has been a great outlet, too. I think you should sign up for the newsletter.
It’s the only picture I have, sorry for the poor quality.
- Being pregnant and forgetting about it half the time. Seriously, I can’t wait to talk to you about this second pregnancy; it’s been such a different experience than the first. For example: at my first OB appointment with Jack, I had questions about ev.er.y.thing. Everything! This time? My one and only question: How bad is sushi, really? I mean, Japanese women have babies all the time, right?
- Vacationing. We took a week-long vacation with Cory’s family at the beginning of June to Emerald Isle and I LOVED IT. I’d never been, but we had such a great time. We have a trip to Greenville, SC coming up soon and an Outer Banks vacation planned before summer wraps up in a month or so (btw, how is summer almost over?) (btw, thank God it is, because this pregnant lady HATES THE HEAT!)
- Loving this season of motherhood. The first year was scary for me. I had no idea what I was doing; and although I still have no idea what I’m doing, I now have confidence in the fact that I can raise a tiny human without having all the answers. That’s a liberating checkpoint in motherhood, isn’t it? And this age is so fun and sweet (but let’s be real – it has it’s own unique challenges that drive me up the GD wall) and I just love watching this little person explore the world (except for things like trash cans, the flavor of shoe soles, and baskets of folded laundry.)
Is that it? Probably not, but maybe so. Now that we’re all on the same page, let’s get back to business. Next up in the post que: 4 Things I Should Have STFU About During My First Pregnancy. See you next week!